One of my former students is getting married in Houston in a few months. She has always had her pick of the litter, and I found it interesting when she said that she chose a man that a lot of her friends would have overlooked. She admitted that he wasn’t high on "swag," fancy clothes, smooth talk or material possessions. But she saw character, kindness, intelligence and affection from him that let her know that he has the capacity to love her for the rest of his life. I think a lot of women who "can’t find a good man" could learn something from her experience – good relationships are a matter of a) being able to choose the right partner, and b) knowing how to respond to the right partner in the right way.
A lot of people build relationships like a camp fire built using newspaper….newspaper might burn high, quick and fast, but it quickly fizzles out. Wood, instead of paper, might be a better option. But that’s just my two cents.