When I hear people say, "I can’t find a good man/woman," that statement makes me think. I believe the stmt is more of a reflection of you being less interested in being with someone who is good for your long-term well-being than being with the person who gives you instant gratification (even horribly bad mates can make us feel oh so good).
Therefore, the difference is no more confusing than the way overweight people pass up healthy food so they can find the greasy, sweet dishes that tingle their taste buds. When that person says, "I can’t find healthy food," they are actually saying "I can’t find any healthy food that tastes as good as this cheeseburger, so I am going to just keep eating at McDonald’s." Until the person makes a conscious decision to make the sacrifices necessary to eat healthy food, they are always going to experience the ups and downs that come with a lifetime of grease and fat.
My thinking on the issue? Understanding yourself and finding a way to navigate the fickle and powerful balance between what you want and what you need can take you a long way. So, whether you are a 300 pound man seeking to get the body of an athlete, a comedian trying to get your first big break or a saddened soul with a consistently broken heart, most of us know when unhealthy choices have served to poison our lives and our bodies.
When we make bad choices and the consequences come home to roost, we cannot look at the world as the cause of our personal failures. There is also a tremendous amount of accountability that must come from within. Blaming the world for your disappointment is like traveling down a road with no end. But when you do get to the end of that road, you find that it started and ended inside of YOU.