Quick note by Dr. Boyce Watkins
I’m doing an email interview with Ebony Magazine about the options for black women in the church finding a lifelong partner. It’s really giving me reason for pause, because I’ve never quite understood those women who will only date men who go to church and believe what they do. I know quite a few brothers who walk the walk and talk the talk, but don’t have any desire to be ethical mates or good partners.
I also found it ironic that when I have been rejected for not going to church, the woman took almost no time to evaluate me based on the content of my character. But then again, that told me something about her depth of thinking. Being rejected never bothered me (it happens to everyone), but I did feel sorry for them. If you’ve got that long list of things that a man has to do or have in order for you to be with him, you must realize that with every restriction comes a missed opportunity. Therefore, you should make sure the restrictions are worth it.
Unfortunately, not having a father in the home has taken a toll on the ability of many women to understand what men want outside of looks and sex. I recommend reading a book on the opposite sex (not written by a comedian) if you’re serious about finding a good mate (this goes for men and women).